Wow. Last week was exciting with Super Bowl in my city. What a game. And how about that halftime show?
It was such a welcome surprise to see Lady Gaga go above the fray and stay positive about our country. I have to admit when the Houston skyline lit up in red, white and blue, tears welled out of a sense of pride for my hometown and for my country. In that moment we stood as one nation, and you could feel it.
Over the past few weeks, we’ve been inundated with so much negativity, conflict and division. When that happens we begin to question everything. What gets really dangerous is when we start to question ourselves. Because when we question ourselves, we unintentionally create falsehoods that lead to a pervasive insecurity. We look at everything that’s wrong and have a deep seeded desire to fill in the gaps and add more, do more, be more.
But what if we question the natural urge to add and be something new and instead, let go of what’s not serving us, allowing ourselves to become fully who we are because what we are is already perfect? Let’s “unbecome” what never was us in the first place so the real us can shine through. Instead of adding, let’s subtract to find our true essence.
The beauty of aging is that maturity gives us license to discover our true essence as the adding on fades and our true nature peeks through. When we start to live this way, a beautiful emotion begins to seep in — GRACE. We begin to give ourselves the greatest of all gifts — LOVE. And when grace is present, we are able to extend it to others more freely as well. It’s a beautiful cycle of divinity, really.
Last month we focused on looking inward by pausing, assessing and resetting. Maybe you began some new healthy habits or engaged in a little indulgent self-care. (Usually my self-care amounts to two glasses of wine. 😉 ) Sometimes, however, by the end of January all those good intentions begun with such fervor begin to fall away and we feel bad about it. But don’t. Extend yourself some newfound grace and move it on along.
First of all there’s progress in just realizing your good intentions and habits are slipping. That’s called awareness and it is a good thing because it shows you are in touch with your body and mind. I started practicing yoga a few years ago and it has changed my life in how it creates a space inside me to quiet the mind and to get to know the body better. It takes time and patience but the more you do it the more you begin to understand how vital it is to get in touch with yourself in a new, less reactive way. There’s nothing more powerful than a new sense of knowing the truth. And with that truth you can decide how to move forward. You truly are the master of your own destiny.
Nothing says grace to me more than this poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer called Prelude to the Dance. Here’s an excerpt. (You can read the full text here.)
What if becoming who and what we truly are happens not through striving and trying but by recognizing and receiving the people and places and practices that offer us the warmth of encouragement we need to unfold?
How would this shape the choices you make about how to spend today?
What if you knew that the impulse to move in a way that creates beauty in the world will arise from deep within and guide you every time you simply pay attention and wait?
How would this shape your stillness, your movement, your willingness to follow this impulse, to just let go and dance?
Here’s to accepting your beautiful self as-is. Here’s to grace.
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