So how are you doing with those resolutions?
Earlier this month, I wrote about how I’ve learned that taking action without looking inward first doesn’t necessarily end well for me. And last week I wrote about going inward to design my Spring 2017 collection. But what does “looking inward” mean?
Remember our blog theme for the month — Pause. Assess. Reset.
Well, it is all about pausing to taking a brief time-out to assess the situation and emotions. Ask yourself a few questions like: Is this endeavor in line with my values? What is my intuition telling me about the endeavor? What am I feeling and why? Am I feeling a nagging, lingering resistance or a strong whole-hearted belief to move forward. Now, reset.
This may sound like some serious over-thinking, a luxurious waste of time even, but it’s not about hours on end of naval-gazing. It is a brief clarity break and much more about feeling than thinking. You will be amazed at what happens when you turn off the device, tame the monkey mind and sit quietly, even for a few minutes.
So, if you resolved anything earlier in the month and it is falling by the wayside I encourage you to dig deeper. Here are some tools from around the web to help with the journey.
First, get quiet. Why are we so afraid of silence? Silence is golden! Mindfulness is a welcomed backlash against the many distractions of modern life. One way to embrace silence is to be a better listener, as I wrote about here. And in this article, Kurt Smith writes about silence as a communication tool. Join me as we collectively shut our pie-holes and become better listeners!
Audio ecologist Gordon Hempton says real silence is presence and the absence of noise. Put your earbuds in and enjoy the auditory feast that he’s collected from the rainforest in this interview with Krista Tippet of On Being.
Taking silence a little further, in this piece, Nicole Kosanke suggests making space for quiet reflection and notes that you might be surprised at what you find when you allow it. Still not convinced? Andy Puddicombe talks about the benefits of taking 10 minutes to be mindful in this Ted Talk. It’s all about the right amount of focus, awareness, acceptance, calm and clarity.
Now that you are quiet, go inward. Deepak Chopra offers advice to reinvigorate your inner self for the new year with the ultimate goal of uniting the inner and outer self. Begin by practicing appreciation, acceptance and/or non-resistance, he offers.
Values and beliefs lie at the heart of the inner self because they determine what’s meaningful to you, and ultimately drive what presents outwardly as YOU. In this Psychology Today article, Jim Taylor, Ph.D. talks about living your values and the importance of reframing success. What do you value and are you living your beliefs every day? For example, if good health is a value yet you find yourself frequently in the fast food drive-thru, something’s up. And podcaster Jess Lively talks about values based intention, and stresses the importance of aligning before taking action here.
Don’t be afraid to poke around inside. The best version of yourself is the one that has gone deep, explored and is living in alignment with values and beliefs, because ultimately that’s the true you.
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