Transition Into Fall With Ease

Is it global warming or perimenopause? I can’t tell. But I do know one thing for sure— I am HOT, people. I’m seeing pumpkins and gourds on porches which is making me itch because I’m not ready to think about sweaters, fur and leggings (OH MY!) Even though fall is upon us, I’m not ready to talk about all the heavy stuff quite yet because to be quite frank I can’t even stomach the thought of a pumpkin spice latte over anything but ICE right now… so I’m going to keep it light and show you how to transition into fall without having a heat stroke.

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TROPICAL BREEZE: Who said Tropical prints can’t take you into fall? Our Paula top is the perfect answer- its 3/4 length sleeve combined with a black ground and moody leafy green accents make it the perfect top to take you into fall. Also, extra bonus: Wear it with your favorite dark wash jeans and sneakers and you’ve got yourself a favorite, early fall go-to outfit! You could even pair it with an open toe suede lace up sandal or bootie to add a little fall texture.

SHOP TROPICAL BREEZE:


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FALL IN LOVE WITH LAINEY: I know what you are thinking- how can I wear a caftan for fall? Well, I am here to tell you—YOU CAN. YAHOO! Try our most versatile dress and pop it with our chic, over-the-knee Calley boot and voila—fall has arrived. Come on guys-  calf sweat beats butt crack sweat any day!

SHOP FALL IN LOVE WITH LAINEY:


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POP OF NEON: Test the water with pieces that have a subtle hint of neon. Try our Em caftan top and surprise everyone at the fall football opener! Here’s a hint though: Always ground your neons in either neutrals or dark denim— you don’t want to blind the quarterback on his first snap. You can’t have that karma on you!

SHOP POP OF NEON:


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BLACK IS ALWAYS A GOOD DECISION: Black just works. Especially in-between seasons- when in doubt go black. That’s my motto. Need I say more? Extra bonus: Wearing an all black outfit is a sure fire way to get you gourd-ready without ending in a melted pumpkin puree mess.

SHOP BLACK IS ALWAYS A GOOD DECISION:


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EVERGREEN: Can’t go wrong with green. It’s the perfect shade to take you from season to season with ease. And, extra bonus— it looks great on everyone! Our Ivy dress is the dress of choice for early fall. Its feminine vibe and peek-a-boo shoulder detail create a glamorous and breezy touch.

SHOP EVERGREEN:


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WHERE CAFTAN AND STREET MEET: Who said feminine and street don’t mix? Want to be the trendiest gal in town? Try our favorite Penelope caftan dress and pair it with our edgy biker bootie, Tibbie. Everyone at the party will say— “How cool- I never would have thought of that!” Your reaction— coyly sip on your wine subtly nod in appreciation.

SHOP WHERE CAFTAN AND STREET MEET:


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RED+FUR= FIERCE (but never angry): Ever heard of a “twofer?” It’s southern for a hell of a deal because it is two for one! That’s right… 2 trends in 1 outfit! You’re welcome! RED is the most important color for fall and our FUR trim vest adds just the right amount of edge. Slip the vest over any of our red pieces and feel instantly fierce (and on trend) Bonus: sleeveless outerwear is a great way to dip your toes into fall without looking like you just dove all the way in and are now drenched… in sweat!

SHOP RED+FUR=FIERCE:


Girl, you’ve got this fall transition in the bag.

XOXO,

Elaine

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Watch My Video – A Journey To Breaking The Glass Slipper

About two or three years ago, I started writing as a way to connect with women, to share my vulnerabilities and journey. As I was writing, some things happened in my life that shifted the kinds of stories I wanted to tell. As you’ll read in my book, Breaking The Glass Slipper, one of those events was meeting a terminally ill woman in Dallas at one of stores. She enlightened me to the idea of what fashion can do in our lives. Sometimes as women in society, we decide fashion is only for a select few. It can be frivolous, materialistic, or only for those with big bank accounts. When this beautiful woman told me what fashion did for her – in particular the fashion I was creating – it led me on this journey of thinking about all of the myths we’re told as women that we buy into, and how we Shouldn’t. This journey ultimately led to me connecting with other women about what we’re fed, and what we decide is true or untrue. I had this urge to communicate these ideas through my writing. From this, Breaking The Glass Slipper was born. It has been a labor of love and I’m so excited to share it with you.

I’m looking forward to the publication of this book on August 23 (Save the date – Available on Amazon!), and hope people enjoy it as much as I do. Watch the interview below to hear the full story about my inspiration to write the book.

 


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XO, Elaine

A Woman’s Greatest Battle Is With Herself

I woke up the other day and as most of us do— I immediately checked my iPhone. The news feeds of the day were downloading and one of the top headlines was, “JLO Showing Off Rock Hard Abs on Her 49th Birthday!” Well, after I read it twice to ensure that is in fact what it said, I cried a little and then peaked beneath the covers to see my soft, supple abs (fat roll) staring back at me. You see, my forty-F*ING-eight (48th) birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks, and as it draws near and I begin to embark on my 49th trip around the sun; I start to ponder… what will my birthday headline read next year?  Maybe something like— “Elaine Showing off FUPA While Straining to Blow Out All 49 Candles.”  (in case you are wondering… FUPA is an acronym for — Fat Upper Pelvic Area – some more vulgar types use the “other” P-word)

 

It seems like as we age, our birthdays tend to create more anxiety.  Inevitably, as the years pass, our mortality draws closer. AND!!! it doesn’t help anything that time seems to move faster and faster as each year passes. This leaves us feeling like we are on a runaway train heading the wrong way on a one-way track about to derail and crash straight into an assisted living facility. Needless to say, feeling vulnerable and questioning ourselves has become the norm. We start to ask ourselves— Did I accomplish what I set out to this year?  Have my nipples migrated farther south? Have I been a good mother, friend, boss, daughter, wife? All this and more plague us as we attempt to do and be it all in the allusive game of life.

 

This year feels especially vulnerable to me. I am in the midst of immense change. My son is leaving 3 days after my birthday for college (I’m not crying, you’re crying!), my company is in the middle of a restructuring, and I am releasing my first-ever book in a couple of weeks. It’s like I’m walking around naked all the time with no robe in sight to cover up my flaws and insecurities.  I mean, at least the Naked Cowboy in Time Square has a guitar to shield some judgment… I’ve got nothing. FUPA on full display, y’all.

 

In my new book, I devote an entire chapter to vulnerability. In one section I say,

 

“We women are perfectionists. We people-please. We believe in the big myth taught to us at a young age: If you’re “good enough,” it all works out in the end. We play many roles wearing many hats, all while suffocating under the illusion we can do it all and be it all. Misguided, often unrealistic expectations are placed on us as we seemingly glide through the overwhelming demands of everyday life. We accept those expectations and break our necks trying to be perfect all the time. And when we’re not, we lose it.

 

Research states that the top two areas for women of not feeling good enough are in relation to how we look and how we parent. Unfortunately, women are held up to impossible standards: Stay feminine, sweet, thin and modest, and make it all look easy.

 

How many times have you felt that way? No matter how much you do or how much you hustle, you still feel like it isn’t enough. The reality is we are human. Men and women alike. For instance, I know I’m aging: My hair is graying, my mind is tired, my body is swollen and no matter how many omega-3s I swallow, I still feel puffy. Thank God for Spanx, caftans, yoga pants and the color black, because there are some things kale and coconut oil just can’t solve. But why, oh why, do we do this to ourselves? It creates unsustainable, even detrimental conditions to exist within.

 

And like looking good isn’t enough pressure, there’s that whole other area where we continue to feel “less than”: parenting. While there are plenty of women who don’t have children and are perfectionists, there’s nothing quite as intense as a mom who feels the pressure to be perfect and to be …

 

… a GOOD mother. (Gulp.) Yep, I said it.

 

Chances are those standards we hold up for ourselves as mothers come from the outside: from society; from our family, friends and acquaintances; from television, movies and books. Basically, from what we’ve been taught are “good mom” traits … and we have no doubt pinned them on Pinterest for quick reference. And from what I can see, those traits create the dreaded, never-ending “should,” “always” and “never” word-vomit loop that gets stuck on repeat in our heads:

 

Always be happy.

Always listen to your baby. 

You should exclusively breastfeed your baby. 

You should stay home with your baby.

Always be patient with your child.

Never miss the important events. 

Always be consistent.

 

You know what I think? Being a mother doesn’t suddenly require perfection—if anything, it requires humanity, modeling for our kids that not everything is always picture-perfect, but that doesn’t mean it’s not awesome (or, shall we say, good enough). And just as important as allowing yourself the room to not be the world’s best mother is letting your kids see you f* up.

 

I think it’s imperative to show your child that you are not perfect. Show them you can make mistakes, and that you can work to correct them. That you can yell and maybe even hurt someone’s feelings, and you can apologize because you are truly sorry. Your children will still love you, and they will learn it’s possible to love someone who is imperfect, and thank God for that. And then they can grow up to be imperfect and love someone who is imperfect, instead of holding themselves and everyone around them to a Pinterest-level standard of perfection.”

 

 So, JLo, I see your abs and I’ll raise you a FUPA. I can turn 48 without letting a 49-year-old goddess (with a team of trainers, I might add) make me feel like I’m turning 48 years old in the wrong way. After feeling a little sorry for myself and doing an endless set of crunches last Saturday morning and seeing no change in my ab tone on Saturday evening I decided this…

 

My birthday wish is that no matter where you are in your life or who you hold as measure of perfection, I hope you allow yourself the grace to find your worth. Your worth is neither added or subtracted by someone’s life, body, bank account, or perfect children. Your worth is up to you and the value you add to the world by staying true to yourself …and maybe your FUPA.

 

With that vulnerability in mind, I’d like to invite you to share three (or one!) self-affirmations in the comments below that demonstrate you have value. Just try it and see how it feels. You are worthy.

 

XO,

Elaine